TURNING YOUR DARKNESS INTO LIGHT ISN'T AS HARD AS YOU THINK
By now, you may have seen some buzz about my new book In Pursuit of the Divine. I am beyond thrilled to announce that the book reached International Best Seller status on Amazon in under 6 hours. Amazing. To top it off, two days later we hit #1 in the category of Self Help Happiness books. After crying tears of joy and jumping up and down, it dawned on me how hungry our world is for the themes that run through this book; particularly the themes of hope, perseverance, being empowered as a woman and letting the joy of our authentic truth liberate us from our self imposed suffering. Now, more than ever, this feels like really important stuff.
I've been seeing these themes arise for my coaching clients recently, and since my clients are my mirror, I see that they've arisen for me as well. How can it be that our greatest pain, our most gripping fears and our deepest loneliness or vulnerability is actually what takes us back towards the light?
One of the readers who reviewed our book on Amazon had this to say: "The stories that these women share are raw and inspiring and they all serve as a reminder that our greatest wounds can be our most valuable gifts if we allow them to open to the light. In reading this collection, I am reminded over and over again that no matter the darkness that may be felt at times, the Divine is always within us, always supporting us, and that we are resilient and powerful."
While we may know intellectually that we are each divine and have the ability to shift from dark to light, how do we actually pull that off in those moments where we feel all hope is lost or when we've accidentally gone down the rabbit hole of negative thinking? This topic has truly inspired me this week as I see the global ripple effect and reach of our special little book. If you're in need of a dose of TRUE INSPIRATION, you can get your copy of In Pursuit of the Divine HERE. I promise it will open you in a way that you didn't expect. Get the kleenex and get your super hero cape out. You're going to need both after you're done reading it. As a special celebratory treat, I'm giving everyone who buys the book a copy of my expansive Limitless Life Meditation. CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR BOOK AND YOUR FREE LIMITLESS LIFE MEDITATION!
More than anything, darkness grips us when we are afraid to be in it. It makes me think of times in the past when the lights have gone out during a winter storm. Instinctually, our first reaction is to be afraid. Yet when we pause and catch our breath, we can slowly figure out where the candles and matches are and we remember that the flashlight is hidden in the kitchen drawer. Upon being relaxed, the dark stormy night begins to feel like an adventure - something fun and totally out of the ordinary that we never get to experience. Lighting one simple candle in that environments illuminates our entire experience and allows us to see things we've never noticed before.
1. Acknowledge Your Wounds. The same is true for our emotional landscape. What we resist persists. If you're wounded in your heart and you ignore it, your wound will become infected, just like a cut on your arm that you turn away from. If you're frustrated with your life but you step over your inner knowing and keep up a facade, you will become more infected there as well. The first step to accessing your most valuable gifts is acknowledging your wounds.
2. Get Curious. Let yourself be there for a moment in the dark without running. This is critical to regaining your power. We are powerless when we are too afraid to encounter our wound. So take out your headlamp and explore the territory here in the dark a bit. No judgement. Just curiosity. What do you discover? What is causing this darkness? How might you unintentionally be contributing to it? What is it costing you to avoid instead of accept this darkness? This is known as leaning into the wound instead of letting it run your life. You're not too afraid to look. You can lean into it with curiosity and gain more information here. Whatever insight you gain in this space becomes the path that will lead you back towards the light. You've looked and you've realized what needs to change. Start to open further... How can the insights that your darkness provides guide you back towards the light? Our gifts emerge from the darkness of our wounds.
3. Don't Accidentally Commit To The Dark. Once we take radical responsibility to admit that certain parts of our lives, our emotional landscape, our relationships or our health are "in the dark", i.e. not in alignment with our highest self, then we can do something about it. Here's where most people get stuck and accidentally stay in their wounds longer than is healthy. Our society, our advertising, even our medical system is wildly fear based and this has created the illusion that we need to get rid of whatever is frustrating or frightening us. We must put all of our focus, energy, time, thoughts, even money towards getting rid of our wound. Not exploring the darkness, but annihilating it at all costs. Make it go away! I don't want it here! The problem is that our shadows - our fear, vulnerability, false beliefs and our human condition will never go completely away. We're human! When we try so hard to get rid of what is bothering us, or what scares us, we end up giving it more energy and focus, and ultimately power. Upon looking at their darkness with curiosity, most people accidentally pitch a tent and end up living in their darkness for years. Acknowledging your wounds does not mean cultivating them. While you want to be willing to look at what's wrong, don't accidentally over identify with the negative to the point that you commit to your wounding.
4. Remember The Sun! You've acknowledged your wounds, gotten curious about them and realized that by exploring them, they give you insight to very important and timely information about how to make things better. This is where the magic is. This is how our wounds turn into our greatest gifts. You must now follow your inner knowing and walk towards what you know is right. It takes courage, it takes patience and faith... but most of all, it takes LIGHT. Once you've turned to face the light again, do everything to remember that sun is always present. Even when it's night time, the sun exists. Even when you hit a block of fear, your glorious truth and authentic power is always present. Find the people, teachers, healers, coaches, communities, activities, foods and places that ignite the light within you so you can remember and stay connected to who you really are. You are whole, you are safe, you are powerful, you are capable, you are beautiful, you are creative, you are healthy, you are more than enough. The more you do this, the more your natural born gifts will emerge for you.
Whatever we have our focus on grows. Allow your wounds to guide you towards what you have been avoiding. Allow yourself to turn 180 degrees around and face the light yet again. You'll be so glad you did and perhaps then you can contribute to your own inspirational book anthology about claiming the divine presence that is already within you.
Here's to your inner light. May you own it, celebrate it and remember that it's always inside of you. You are divine.
BEYOND MY WILDEST EXPECTATIONS
I am thrilled and honored to announce that In Pursuit of the Divine reached bestseller status within the first 6 hours of being available for purchase on Amazon! It is now #1 status in the category of Self Help Happiness books. In alignment with my vision for each of us to live a limitless life, filled with purpose, power, freedom and joy, I’m offering my Limitless Life Guided Meditation as a free gift to everyone that purchases this book. This meditation is the perfect compliment to a book that is sure to blow your heart wide open!
It dawned on me as I was taking my pup out for an afternoon stroll a few moments ago just how incredible this book actually is. There is a major ripple effect here. You mean because I dared to share what I've been through - more vulnerably, authentically and courageously than I've done before.... some woman in Africa, in Holland, in New Zealand, in North Carolina might find it within herself to choose light over dark? Trust over fear? Personal power and will over choosing to remain shrunken and small?
This is how we do it you guys. This is what happens when each of us dare to really live our truth in the smallest and largest ways we know how. We do truly have the power to heal the world by healing ourselves. I'm totally struck by this. Sitting here at my computer, tears streaming down my face because I understand yet again, the importance of embodying our truths.
I invite you today to be yourself a little more than you were yesterday, to stand up for yourself, to acknowledge your beauty, to say NO, to strut your stuff and open your heart just a little bit more. This is how we do it. YOU have an impact on everyone around you, whether you're aware of it or not. You were put on this earth with a purpose of living as YOU, as divinely as you can. When you do that, it inspires the rest of us. This is our time. This is YOUR time. Amen to this little book called In Pursuit of the Divine. I’m totally honored and humbled to be a part of this incredible collaboration. Here is to the divine power within each of us!
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MY NEW INSPIRATIONAL BOOK ANTHOLOGY BECOMES AVAILABLE ON AMAZON THIS FRIDAY, JUNE 6TH!
In just 3 days, the book anthology that I co-authored, In Pursuit of the Divine, will be released on Amazon. I was invited to participate in this incredible, inspiring and impactful collaboration by my friend and the book's compiler, Krista Gustavson who asked that each of the book's 30 co-authors share our stories of empowerment and transformation more truthfully, vulnerably and courageously than ever before. The result is a collection of stories that is incredibly real, totally inspirational and packed with tools to empower women around the globe. This is our time. This is YOUR time. To be utterly and gloriously YOU and to shine your light fully for your sake, the sake of your loved ones and the sake of our world. This book will empower you to do so. Stay tuned for the Amazon link which will become available on Friday so that you can purchase the book for yourself and all the other women who are important to you!
The purpose of this book is to inspire and empower Women all over the world to reclaim their Feminine Power and align with who they are so they can fully express their deepest truth. Each co-author invites you to witness their own Transformational Journey, one that empowered them to be who they are today as the Feminine Rising. Each chapter reveals the truth, what they discovered on their path to cultivate healing within themselves. Each story reveals the beauty already inherent in each one of us, a unique journey where a time of darkness initiated deep feminine wisdom of spectacular threads woven together in a tapestry of courage, bravery, trust and triumph In Pursuit of the Divine.
MEET THE CO-AUTHORS!
I joined forces with 29 other healers, coaches, visionaries and thought leaders from around North America and the U.K.
Each co-author will touch your heart and speak to your soul, giving you greater awareness, clarity and inspiration. You will learn that losing yourself in the midst of pain, grief and loss can be a portal to strengthen and empower ourselves. I invite you to step into your own story so that your true purpose can be revealed. When we are completely aligned with our Purpose, we are the greatest contribution to the world.
Our Purpose is to inspire and empower Women all over the globe with our transformational stories. Every Woman has experienced some form of disempowerment in her life leaving behind traces of her pure essence; she then becomes hidden from the world. Our purpose is to expand your awareness, acknowledge you and provide a sanctuary to reclaim your own Feminine Power. Women now more than ever are being called upon to come together as a collective entity. With our unique offerings, we have a desire to support you and guide you in activating your own inner wisdom so you can align yourself with the greatest expression of who you are and know your purpose in the world.
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