Breaking Through The Good Trap

Orange is the new black and GOOD is the new mediocre.
Let's face it:  Most of us have high class problems.  Myself included.  And I'd be willing to bet that if you're reading this, your life is pretty good: it's safe to assume that you have a roof over your head.  You have a stable job.  You can afford to go out to dinner with friends and you take yourself on vacation every so often.  Your family is nice.  Your health is decent.  You can't really complain.  And yet... IS THIS ALL THERE IS?!  Sorry, I didn't mean to yell.  But can you feel it?  The blah-ness of settling for a good life?  

It's incredibly alluring to get stuck in the Good Trap, where things are arguably good.  Where we feel guilty complaining or secretly longing for more.  And yet, the longer we stay in the land of Good, the longer we begin to feel ourselves, our joy and our dreams shrinking.  The Good Trap is a sneaky one, but on this path of awakening to your soul's fullest potential and joy, it simply is not enough.  

Are you trapped in the Good Life?
There are 3 key reasons why we allow ourselves to remain in the Good Trap for longer than we need to.  

1. Firstly, we think it's the norm.  No one else is ditching their perfectly stable and good life to go climb a mountain or two, swing from the chandeliers and live a wildly authentic and fulfilling life - why should I?  People just don't do that.  But what is "normal" anyways?  What if our norm is changing?  What if in your world it became perfectly normal to upgrade from good to totally, utterly AMAZEBALLS fabulous?  I'll fill you in on a little secret:  I chose to upgrade from good to deliciously phenomenal some years ago, and now in my world that's normal.  It can be for you too.  It's your choice.  And since when is being "normal" something to strive for anyways?  I get approached by people each week who are longing to experience more of their true authenticity and asking me how they can build a life based on their own unique shine.  I invite you to evolve yourself beyond the norm that you know and step into a new territory of greatness.  

2. Secondly, many people experience guilt when it comes to considering the Good Trap upgrade.  My clients and workshop participants tell me: "I wish I could be in a different career - I mean, I'm not starving and I don't hate my job, but...".  Feel the guilt?  Be careful of the illusion that you don't deserve greatness because other people are struggling.  People loose their power in the story that somehow living in greatness makes it worse for those who are suffering.   As Marianne Williamson said: "You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you."  You were born to experience your greatness.  We all were.  In most cases, people's struggles end up proving to them just how great they are.  So don't try to alleviate suffering by remaining loyal to mediocracy.  You will inspire, help and heal others when you are at your greatest.  

3. Lastly, the number one thing that holds people in the grips of Good is fear and the assumption that upgrading from Good to Fabulous is somehow dangerous.  If I quit my suffocatingly good job, ditch my good not great relationship, rent out my OK apartment so I can go to Nepal... surely I'll end up broke and alone.  Really?  Will following your dreams leave you broke and alone?  In your dream life are you isolated and homeless?  I doubt it.  I guarantee you that following your heart's desire and engaging in a lifestyle that brings you totally alive will only lead to more abundance, meaning, connection, security and freedom.  You may experience some social pruning or some fall-out of your old, Good, way, but eventually, your new AMAZING way will take roots and you'll be able to count on it 100%.

In my ALIGNED course, we work on taking Radical Responsibility for our circumstances and our lives.  Our external environment is a reflection of our inner landscape and we create our reality.  Trust in the potency of your dream and trust yourself to pull it off.  You have it in you or it wouldn't be nagging at you to upgrade.  If you need a little help claiming, clarifying and creating the life of your dreams, check out my audio seminar "5 Secrets To Making Your Dream Life Real. For Real."  It will give you the jump start you need. 

You're probably beginning to feel how much Good simply no longer cuts it.  On this path of awakening to our truth and igniting our soul's full joy and potential, we simply can no longer reside in the land of Good.  If we are truly to partake in the evolution of our global consciousness and the forwarding of our humanity then we must allow ourselves to follow through on our desire to engage in everything that totally illuminates us from within.  It is our responsibility to dare to honor what we really love.  As Rumi says, "It will not lead you astray."  

I here by grant you full permission to be wildly selfish and live a life that is totally beyond the blahness of Good.  For when you allow yourself to become deliciously alive, 

inspired and free you become inherently generous towards everyone around you.  And we need this version of you.  Our world needs it.  So GO FOR IT!  It's safe.  It's fun.  It's worth it.  It's time.  

** I want to hear from you!  Please leave a comment below and let me know what your Good Trap looks like and how you're going to break right through it into the land of Deliciously Fabulous!  

Shine On,
Rony