In our society we tend to throw around the phrase "life of your dreams" pretty casually, to the point where it has become cliche and quite cheesy. But think about those words for a moment: Life Of Your Dreams. Wow. What if you could really live a life so truly rewarding that it felt like you were living your dreams over and over again? What if you could actually have boundless energy, vibrant health, deep fulfillment, inner peace, money, love and purpose? Many think this is unrealistic. I'm here to assure you that it is absolutely possible to create this and then some.
Are your decisions helping you live the life of your dreams or are they holding you hostage in your own self-imposed prison? The choices we make greatly affect the life we live. This seems obvious, yet most of us don't realize the power that we have to create the life we truly want. When we have vision around who we want to become and start choosing in alignment with that then everything changes. Where do you currently reside?
Several years ago, I thought that good enough was as good as it got. I thought that because I excelled at my career, worked hard, had fun and made good money that I was on track. I thought that because I was thin and worked out regularly that I was healthy. I thought that one day my husband would appear so long as I cast a net wide enough to catch him. My life was good. And yet, it wasn't my DREAM LIFE. Something felt off deep down inside. I was over-extended and tired, my job lacked meaning and I was stuck on the perpetual dating treadmill. I wasn't living on purpose. I wasn't realizing the ripple effect of my choices in terms of how they were building my life and future.
It wasn't until I experienced some powerful wake-up calls in the form of major body-wide health breakdowns that I began to see the role I was playing in living a wonderful, mediocre life. As I began to work with coaches and healers, I was able to identify what my ultimate life and health truly consisted of. I clearly defined my dream life and realized that I could create it, slowly but surely. I explored what it truly meant to be a woman who embodied total wellness. I got clear about what I wanted to contribute in my life's work and experience in a loving partnership.
When we allow ourselves to dream big it helps us expand beyond our current situation. It allows us to see how we can take responsibility for our lives and what we have to change in order to have something different. If we don't change how we are choosing throughout the day, then things simply won't change. We will remain stuck in a self-imposed prison. As Albert Einstein said: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results". In order to get different results, we must understand where we'd like to go and make choices that will take us there. It might be scary, but change is required if we want something more.
So.... What does YOUR DREAM LIFE look like? If you had all the money in the world; if you knew you could not fail; if anything were possible; if your health was fantastic, who would you be? How would you act? What would you be doing with your body, your money, your energy, your love, your purpose and career? What would you express and contribute? How would you spend your free time? Who would be supporting you? Where would you be doing all of this and why?
I encourage you to become very clear on your answers to these questions. Play with it, dive into it, get curious and be bold. Stretch your imagination further than you think is possible. DREAM REALLY BIG. REALLY REALLY BIG.
THE GOLDEN KEY
Become clear on this vision of your Future Self and then.... here is the golden key to your success.... start choosing as if you were your Future Self now. I'll say that again: Start choosing as if you were your Future Self at this very moment. For example: if your Future Self is 40 pounds thinner, confident and enjoying yoga regularly then what choices would that person make when faced with a donut today? How would that person be spending their time today? How often would that person be doing yoga this week? What would that person trust about themselves in this very moment? What would their posture be like throughout the day? How would they communicate? After envisioning, we must get into action in order to create a change. We must become our dream selves now if we want to move forward in the direction of creating our dreams.
You can even choose your response to this Dream Big exercise. Are you going to allow yourself to criticize and punish yourself for not living your dream life now? Or are you going to choose to be inspired and simply make a different choice today that will propel you towards your vision?
Post a reminder note on your bathroom mirror where you will see it every day. This note should remind you to choose in alignment with your future self. For example:
* As a woman who embodies total wellness, I choose to: _______________________
* As a triathlete who spends his free time exercising outdoors, I choose to: _________________________
* As a woman who loves herself deeply and therefore attracts in a loving mate, I choose to: ________________________
* As a man who is working in a profession that he loves, I choose to: ______________________________
* As a retired man who travels the world with his wife, I choose to: ___________________________
In my Individual Coaching programs we work on refining who your Future Self is, what your dream life entails and how you can create it in a supported, empowered way. Contact me to learn more about how coaching can help you to change your life.
Dreaming BIG can only help us. What hurts us is when we remain too entangled in fear and worry to act on turning our dreams a reality one choice at a time. I invite you to take the leap of faith and see what happens! Your dream life is waiting for you and it's worth going for it!
I welcome your comments and invite you to share some fun facts about who your Future Self is!